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Suicide and the Afterlife

My friend committed suicide many years ago and I was amazed to hear what many people thought about the subject and how much fear and suffering this belief caused amongst families. My job as a psychic medium is to provide evidence of the life hereafter, but it is more than that. I am often, as other mediums are too, privy to information the non mediumistic person can’t normally perceive. This information is about the reality of our lives here on earth and the interaction of spiritual forces within our lives.

I have seen the other side and walked in the garden of the spirit just as many mediums have before. It is easier for me to deal with the process known as death because of the knowledge I and many of my contemporaries have. I have been asked often if I believe in the afterlife, and I often retort “Of course I don’t believe in the afterlife, that’s absurd.” I smile enigmatically when I see the glee in their faces when they think they may have one over me. Then I exclaim, “I don’t believe in it because belief suggests that it may not be real, I know its real, therefore I know its true.” I know that’s when the smile has been wiped from their faces.

Now because I and many other mediums know this, I want to try to set the record straight on the fact of suicide. But before I do, I want to discuss the act of suicide and why it happens? The turmoil that one has to experience before they finally take their own life is tremendous, and I am not talking about an accidental passing. Many who take their own life feel there is nothing more to live for, even though they may have loved ones near by – sometimes you cant’t see the woods for the trees and so there seems no other way out. Personally, I feel there are many reasons, but two are probably more fundamental than others. One problem is the financial status of the individual or indeed the financial pit they have fallen into, and the other is the lack of love within their lives or indeed the lack of forgiveness. Theirs is a type of grief, and although they may not see that loved ones are near them, they feel so alone and unloved.

It is a sad fact that many often find they are In a financial pit with no way out and the inability to provide for themselves or their families often drives them to take the easy way out, which of course is death. Loneliness is another problem that often causes one to attempt suicide and this loneliness is just another facet of a loveless life. No one can really understand why or what it takes to push a human being over the edge and many who attempt suicide, or think they are doing it – are merely crying out for help. Obviously there are times when this cry for help can go wrong and the individual passes by accidental means. No matter what, we will never really understand the mind of someone who is suffering so bad they wish to end their lives thinking it is easier. I am not going to discuss the aspects of the spirit world here and will save that for my new book, but I do want to make a point so that you may feel a little comfort.

I mentioned before that many individuals who have sat before me privately or in groups have had a deep rooted fear that the individual they love may not be in that place they call heaven or wherever else you believe exists. The turmoil and the anguish they put themselves through is tremendous and I can’t help feeling that false doctrine is at the bottom of it all after all – doctrine is of man and not divine in any way. I have news for you; those who commit suicide are taken into the loving arms of spirit people in the spirit world who love and care for them until they reach their own awakening. Of course those that are left behind often do not understand this and the fear their loved one has gone to hell or a holding place can often cause great distress. You can be assured this does not happen, and if you can envision your loved one in the arms of a beautiful angel or your own loved ones who have passed over, you can rest peacefully knowing that your loved ones are safe and well.

Ok, so now you are going to ask how we know this and I don’t blame you. There is a plethora of information that has come from beyond the grave time and time again -not only in readings but in trance seances where the evidence has been irrefutable. Scientists that have been investigating the afterlife have so much intelligence at their fingertips that skepticism in pseudo form is no longer valid. However, probably the most satisfying evidence is the evidence, which one witnesses in a private sitting when the loved one comes back and tells how it is from the horses mouth – along with the evidence required for the sitter. Often our loved ones will return to try to allay the fears of those they left behind by little tell tale signs they are around. Much of the time, these signs are missed and often ignored because of the grief one may be experiencing or indeed because of other individuals perceptions. They will often visit in your dream state just to let you now that all is well and sadly, the individual receiving the message will put this down to their grief and needing to feel they are alive. Other small signs such as hearing them calling you or manipulating energy in your environment are also often missed. If you could only know – not believe – what I know, you would take comfort in knowing that your loved ones are not in a terrible place if they took themselves over. They are in loving arms and will let you know they are well.

Now what you must know is that suicide is not the easy way out as one still has to work through things in the spirit world. This will be featured in a further article.

The Darker side of the paranormal

The Interest in séances, Ouija boards and spirit communication has risen thanks to TV shows such as Most Haunted and our haunted lives. These shows have also given birth to ignorance and the problems that have arisen from these foolhardy attempts to dabble in the paranormal. Consequently, they have destroyed lives. Walk into any spiritualist church and they will tell you that there is no entity such as Satan and demons do not exist; it is merely a wandering or grounded spirit looking for help. The truth is different and ignorance does not afford you safety. Demons do exist and the darker side of the paranormal is very dangerous. A simple quasi attempt to communicate with a discarnate entity or dabble in aspects of the occult without the proper protection will undoubtedly open a pandora’s box of problems.

More often than not you will certainly not recognize the signs and symptoms of a possession or of a darker force until it is too late. By then, the gateway is open and your simple attempts to cleanse and clear could be little more effective than trying to blow out a trick candle – THE FLAME ALWAYS RETURNS.

The problem that we face is that by our very nature we are an inquisitive species and we will study what we do not understand – thus attempting to gain some kind of reason for knowledge. Often we will try to control the outcome of something in any way possible – even to the detriment of ourselves – believing that we have achieved the Unachievable. Let’s look at a few of these.

Ouija Boards

This is perhaps the simplest and most misunderstood method of spirit communication. According to some sources (Chinese occultists), the first historical mention of something resembling a Ouija board is found in china around 1200 B.C., a divination method known as fuji "planchette writing". Other sources claim that according to a French historical account of the philosopher Pythagoras, in 540 B.C. his sect would conduct séances at "a mystic table.”

The first use of the Ouija board came with the spiritualist movement in the mid-19th century. Divination at that time was used to gain messages in many ways such as using a planchette that would be controlled by the spirit and used to spell out messages to the sitting individuals. During the late 1800s, planchettes were widely sold as a novelty or a parlour game that was patented by the businessman Elijah Bond and Charles Kennard. These boards are still sold today in there millions.

The spiritual aspect

It is widely known and accepted that the board is used for occult practices but it must be understood that the board is not the problem; it is merely a tool with which the user can focus his or her intent. The intention behind the use of the board is the problem. The user will normally sit with the intention of contacting discarnate entities. Now this is all very well but what if you do not understand how to discern. This is one of the first spiritual gifts that you should develop. It is not enough to be able to utilize your psychic faculties without understanding the internal power of discernment. It is said that a demon can come in the form of light – how can the trusting individual tell the difference. Using an Ouija board is like setting light to an explosive charge. You create what your thoughts dictate and if you have the pure intent that you wish to contact spirit – you will. The trouble is which ones.

I was once contacted by a mother in the north of England who had stupidly decided to use a Ouija board with her daughter and her daughter’s boyfriend. Nothing much actually happened or so it seemed and over a short period of time – paranormal events started to occur in their home. The troubling aspect was that the target of the events was the young daughter. It was she who experienced the episodes including voices, seeing spirits, having nightmares and a general upset throughout her life. Slowly and surely, the mood in the home changed and life seemed out of control. Electricity would blow and objects would disappear. Eventually the mother admitted that one evening they decided to play spirit games and used a makeshift board – a simple piece of paper and glass as a planchette. They had seen this time and time again on TV and thought nothing of it. The mothers desire to become psychic was so strong that she used her own family to get there. Blinded by her own desires she created a portal in the home which invited spirits to communicate – any spirits, and that is when things went disastrously wrong. Before she came to me, she had requested the help of other mediums, and the mediums who came in actual fact could not deal with the problem due to their misunderstanding of the Darker aspects of the Paranormal.

Using the Board

As I have mentioned the board works by intention only and is not the harbinger of some mysterious power. Through this intention, you create a portal with which unseen entities can communicate or visit. These entities will more often than not be grounded spirits or darker entities with malice on their mind. Why someone feels that they can contact a loved one who has crossed over to the spiritual plain (heaven) I don’t know. But suffice to say that if I was in Heaven – I would not want to return to this dark energy we call earth. The only spirits that can be contacted through the utilization of the board are spirits who have not crossed and often these are lower vibratory entities.

A demonic entity may attach itself to a grounded spirit and thus get a piggy back ride – right to your playground. Think about this, do you really want that happening?

Investigating spirit activity

Using Ouija boards is not the only way that problems can occur. In this day and age we can see more and more ‘Ghost Hunters’ turning up and anyone with an interest in the paranormal can start researching ghosts or spirits. The problem we have here is that it needs some form of interaction between the investigator and the spirit entity. We are seeing time and time again, investigators calling on spirits or even challenging them which is like playing Russian roulette with a loaded gun. Professional researchers will always use a professionally trained medium as they know that they need someone who can control and discern spirits. Other non-professional investigators rely on themselves and do not have the luxury of using professional mediums. This is candy to the entity and the games can begin.

One thing you must realize is that we are all energy in motion and are spirits in human form not the other way around. Therefore, it makes sense that these spirits already have a handle on manipulation of energy and know exactly your thoughts and your fears. Never challenge the spirit - for you can’t fight what you can’t see or feel.

Séance’s

A Séance is a group of people – headed by a professional medium and a scribe (who takes notes) – that meets with the soul intention of speaking with the dead. In the correct circumstances and with the right professionally trained people, this can be an effective way of experiencing trance communication. However, in most instances the séance carried out by most people is done through sheer inquisitiveness by untrained and unstable individuals. This is another method of ‘Calling on spirits’ and can be more bother than it is worth. By calling on a spirit you are sending out an invitation for any spirit to contact you and even if you think it is good and from the light – you can be a victim of deception and deception that could cost your life. I said before that a demon can come in the form as a being of light and if you do not have the power of discernment mastered – you are inviting all sorts of problems.

Demoniac activity

I mentioned previously that you could be inviting demons and allow me to build on this. A demon can show itself in the form of light – yet it cannot by definition stand anything from the light and if questioned will show its weakness. However, infestation can start slowly and develop into a full blown possession without anyone knowing. There are 5 stages to Demonic possession;

1. Invitation

2. Infestation

3. Oppression

4. Obsession

5. Possession

Even in our modern times, satanic cults are springing up everywhere and even the Vatican has been subjugated by satanic influences. So secret are these cults that they could be going on in your next door neighbours house without your knowledge. With that in mind – you have a war that is going on right now in the unseen planes of the spirit realm and this war is for the souls of mankind. Is it so difficult to believe that with all the negativity – that satan and his legion of demons are just waiting for the right invitation and dabbling in the occult for fun and without the proper training or experience is opening a portal straight to Hell!!!

Indentifying the activity

There are obviously signs and symptoms of diabolical activity and some of these will be more easily noticeable than others. For instance you may start to smell putrid odours such as rotting flesh and will have no cause for the stench. You may also note that religious icons that you may have are often removed, damaged or defiled. The person who may be infested will show a dislike to religious artifacts and may react badly in their presence. There will be an increase in argumentative episodes or even violence. Often in cases that present evidence of demonic influence, there will often be heard noises of animals scratching or clawing and even growls not of this world. The signs and symptoms of possession can be so subtle or right in your face. If you experience any of these – consult a professional immediately.

Clearances

You can take part in as many clearance rituals as often as you like, but the truth is, if you are infested with diabolical spirits, it will take more than a simple cleansing to be rid of the influences that surround your family, your property and your own life. A clearance using ancient remedies such as sage and cedar will only work in certain occasions such as a grounded or trapped entity that is looking for help rather than being the cause of mischief. If you attempt to use a clearance on a darker entity – you will only anger this spirit and you will cause far more devastation and destruction than you realize. The truth is that Prayer is your best weapon until you can reach out to a suitably qualified individual. I am one of those individuals but have found myself out of my depth at times and always have to revert to the Catholic Church or a suitable religious leader. There is no honour in trying to be a hero sometimes it is better to change tactic than admit defeat.

Finish on a high note

Now all this may sound quite scary and in reality it is, but one thing that you should take from this article is that the realm of spirit and psychic ability is not an easy task to take on. Like all things in life there is the great balance of positive and negative and if you do not understand the balance of its nature – you will surely fall into a dark abyss that can be difficult to get out of. Keep a true heart and study under a reputable source.

Vibrations

Wouldn’t it be great if you could attract all that you desire in life or achieve all of your dreams – You can? The way to achieve the success and happiness that you desire is your responsibility and the path to this is to understand your psychic vibes. I am almost positive that nearly everyone has heard of the secret but ‘The secret’ is - there is no secret. Psychics and mystics have been teaching that same subject for thousands of years.

Everything that surrounds us either animate or inanimate is nothing but atomic vibrations that vibrate at a rate that we as humans find it difficult to comprehend. Science has now suggested that we are made of the same energy that permeates everything in the universe, and through understanding this energy – we learn to increase our own vibrational rate. The result of which is strengthening our own psychic ability. In this section each week we will look at ways of strengthening our vibes by learning the basics of psychic ability. We will explore; Psychometry, Divination, Crystals, meditation, clearance of negative energy and much more. You will learn to meet your guides and learn about the work we do as psychic mediums. Increasing your own ability and vibration will undoubtedly help you to create the world you want to live in and not the world that you have to live in – bringing you health, wealth and happiness.

Safety By Intuition

We have all been there – the pub when a violent outbreak bursts, the football, the street and even in the home. We ask the same question, “How did I get myself into that, how could I have avoided the situation?” We have the ability to escape these violent or dangerous encounters by using our natural intuition. Positivity and negativity are vibrations that are different in composition. Perhaps you have shaken hands with someone and felt an overwhelming urge to get out of their company – negative vibration. In contrast, the same action can give you a feeling of inner happiness and safety, hence – a positive vibration. Whether you believe it or not, you are using natural psychic gifts, and you are being warned of impending danger if you have a negative feeling. Your hair may stand on end - you may feel a gut wrenching in the pit of your stomach. Everyone feels these vibrations differently, but together we are going to begin a journey of self-discovery – of learning how to become your own bodyguard and recognize the subtle signs from the universe. You have the ability to make the world a safer place and to enjoy the beauty that surrounds you without the need to fear. How would it feel to go anywhere you choose knowing that you will remain safe in a hostile world? We all have this ability and should use it more readily from the streets to the battlefield. Over the coming months i will be discussing this from many angles and hope that the blog will develop into a deffiniative guide.

Psychic Relations

Relationships can be a warzone or a tranquil garden. Do you realise that you create the relationships that you desire and when you run into problems within a relationship? it can be a reflection of lack within your own being. It could also be the lack of vibrational match for each other. The same element is constant – lack. This is what results in problems within a relationship and it does not need to be within a loving relationship of a partner or family unit. You can feel the effects of lack in work relationships or with friendly relationships. The truth is that you have the power to attract what you desire in your relationships. Ever heard the saying “Like attracts Like?” It’s true and you attract what your vibrational desire is.

For instance, there are individuals that look for love, who want to find that mate for life and yet this goal can seem like a distant memory. One thing that you should learn is that you have to ask, again another saying springs to mind “ask and it will be given” suggesting that if you don’t ask you don’t get. So if you want a soul mate – ask the universe. There is an easy way to ask and be sure that you are specific – you don’t want a mixed bag, do you? Take a note book and write a letter to your guardian angel or yourself. Be honest, say exactly how you feel, if you are lonely then say it. Next think of all the qualities that you would want in a partner and write them in your letter. If you want your partner to love the theatre – say so. Last but not least, thank the universe for bringing the partner of your dreams to you and hold the vision in your mind. Now sign off your letter and forget about it. Let the universe do the work for you.

There is nothing worse than loneliness, yet we have the ability to change this should we wish to. All you have to do is ask and out your order into the universe. Patience is another important aspect of all this; don’t expect things to happen immediately.

The Nut Behind the But

Years of lobbying and stories of mass destruction, crime and never ending violence are propelling more and more Individuals to lobby for the destruction of all weapons – most being of course hand guns.

Throughout my many years in the military working with law enforcement and other institutions throughout the world – one thing is constant – it’s not the weapon that is dangerous but the stability of the mind behind it.

A weapon, no matter what it is or how it is made; is an inanimate object capable of inflicting harm, injury or at an extreme – death, is merely the tool and nothing can detract from this fact. The only way that a weapon such as a firearm can become dangerous is the machine operating it. That my friend’s is the “Nut behind the but.” In most cases the individual that uses the weapon has already by default of mass consciousness and mindset – decided its use. The same is said for the individual who uses the weapon for violence and destruction. We live in a culture where guns are the every-day norm – a part of our lives and whether we like it or not are part of our safety in some ways.

Conversely, we may consider our intuitive part of our nature to be the weapon, but a weapon that when used correctly that can keep us safe from harm. Perhaps it is time to recognize that our intuition can be likened to our very own hand gun. We can’t get rid of our intuition and contrary to popular belief, we all have it. Is it right therefore that we should rid ourselves of hand guns when it is not the instrument that carries out the crime?

How can a Law enforcement officer use this intuition when using a hand gun or a soldier for that matter? Consider this; Imagine that law enforcement officer on his or her normal duties has to investigate a building or area. Before they enter the building – they are confronted with a clairvoyant image in the mind’s eye of a perpetrator that is armed. Seeing this intuitive flash, they draw the side arm and on entering, are confronted with a masked man brandishing a live weapon with malice on his mind. The officer has by default utilized this skill all be it very conservatively and stayed alive. Imagine if the officer had ignored that feeling and walked into the building not knowing what to expect. There may be a high chance that he or she would have been shot in the line of duty. Now I know that many of you will be screaming that what I have just described is normal standard operating procedure for law enforcement. All I am attempting to do is give a very basic example of how this may be used. It can be as easy or as complicated as you like. It can be just a feeling that someone is lying or being able to tune into a perpetrator’s vibration – gaining a level of intelligence.

Let’s go back to the perpetrator. He already had malice on his mind and would have been consumed by negative feelings and energy around him. Those signals would be emanating from his aura. An individual that is sensitive enough to these subtle signals would be able to pick up on these feelings using natural intuitive ability and will have the opportunity to make the right or wrong decision. That is similar to the choice of using the weapon for good or not. In short “ The nut behind the But.”

Personally, I am not one of those lobbying type folk and as a former protection officer and soldier. I do see a necessity for weaponry and I can also see the validity in the fear created by the former. However, I also believe that our intuitive nature can be just as effective. Therefore the balance may be achieved in accepting both.