From Spirit, Through Spirit, To Spirit
It’s easy for anyone who has yet to suffer grief or to really understand the concept, to say that your loved ones still love you; their bonds of love can never be broken. A counselor or therapist can say that you are still loved whilst looking into their notes or recounting information they have learned by theoretical study. A good medium can be the spark the transformational grief journey and provide comfort in knowing they are alive and well in spirit, but I know, and you know – that is not enough.
Feel The Love Through Your Grief
Love is constant and unassuming. The most powerful force in the universe. It captivates our soul and holds us close to its bosom. Part of the journey through grief is learning to feel, and to develop a clairsentient feeling that is the real you, rather than spout theory and repetitious patterns of the spoken word without feeling.
I have felt loss and like you, understand that everyone deals with grief in their own way. My own thoughts and understanding are part of my experience and perception. I do not maintain them to be truth to you, though they are truth to me. Perhaps it’s easier for me to journey through grief more than someone else due to the fact that I am a medium and do not believe in the afterlife.
Ah, now I have your attention and I know that you are thinking: How can a medium not believe in the afterlife? Allow me to explain. I do not believe, because believing implies disbelief or learned pattern of behavior due to someone else’s experience or perceptions. I KNOW the afterlife is real, and therefore I have no reason to believe; my knowing holds no inquiry and my faith is steadfast in the truth of this reality. Therefore, I also know how powerful love is and how the reality of the afterlife is fueled by love.
But, and I say this with some authority, I also know that when our loved ones leave this plane of existence, it is very difficult for the individual left behind who suffers the loss, to really and truly believe that their loved ones are still there and that their love is still as strong as it was when they could see, feel, hear and touch the material aspect of that soul's existence. No matter who you see for counsel, it is not as real as feeling the truth for yourself and no amount of spoken words will deeply comfort you. As I have maintained, you do not heal grief, you journey through it, you become part of it and you learn to love it as part of your experience – no matter how tough it may be.
Hearing The Voice Of Grief
One of the things you have to recognize, there is a voice of grief, but it is not a negative voice - it is a voice of love that calls to you every minute of the day, and you have to learn its language. Yes there are signs of the spirit world, and yes I know that no matter how many times you are told of these signs such as butterflies, music or words you hear, they will never make that impact until you learn how the voice calls to you and how you tune to its language. For every one sign that you may have recognized, there are thousands that you have missed. I hope that you will not miss these anymore and that after you take the first step on the grief journey, that you begin to hear faint voices in the distance, that ignition that causes the energy of love to pulsate though your soul and cleanse you from the hurt.
Learning to breathe again
So how do we begin? We relearn to BREATHE!
You came into this world through the breath of life and in that breath are all the secrets and keys to the universe. For the most part, we do not think about breathing. It is almost something we take for granted. But if I can show you how to recognize the reality of the secrets of the breath, then you will discover the secret keys to love, of knowing the reality of your soul’s energy. The space in-between the breath is where that secret is harbored, which is also the key to feeling and knowing that your loved ones still exist; the seeds of the energy of love, waiting to be tended to.
Learning to breathe again will help you unlock the power of the language of the soul, and over time, your experiences will become all the more vivid, real and healing. To start your journey to be able to deeply know and feel the love coming from your loved ones in spirit, all you have to do is set aside a short time each day and evening to breathe. It’s so easy to do. Here is a simple practice to help you get started.
Upon Waking
When you begin to awaken in the morning, before you look at your clock, jump out of bed, worry about what you have to do that day, or feel trapped in the grip of grief and don’t want to face the day at all, I want you to just change the one thing. I want you to do nothing but breathe. Just take one deep breath, the deepest breath you can take and hold it for a moment. In that moment, try to focus on external signs of life. Listen for the birds, listen to nature awakening, listen to your heart. Breathe out, and on your out breath, be thankful to spirit or God or whatever you are comfortable with, and say this mantra in your mind:
Breathing, I remember myself.
Breathing, I awaken my soul.
Breathing, I am ready to see.
Breathing, I am aware.
Breathing, I am ready to receive.
Breathing, I am ready to heal.
Do this three times only and repeat this process every morning and evening.
Note: This updated article was originally published in the Afterlife Magazine by The Otherside Press which has since joined the PDN group.
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